The decrease in sexual desire or loss of libido is the main reason for couples to consult a therapist with<\/strong> a sexologist<\/a> or psychotherapist. It is also one of the most difficult sexual problems to treat in therapy. It is therefore important to consult a professional who has the specialty and experience to treat the situation. <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Contrary to popular belief, women do not lose their sexual desire any more than men. In fact, libido problems are just as present in heterosexual, homosexual, transsexual, lesbian couples and even open or polyamorous couples. <\/p>\n We lose interest in sexuality in a couple because the sexual routine sets in<\/a>. I’m not talking about the daily routine of sleep, subway, work, housework, sleep.<\/strong> Sexual relations become repetitive and predictable over time, creating little element of surprise. In other words, sexuality becomes boring!<\/a><\/p>\n When you always initiate and seduce sexuality in the same way, predictability becomes uninteresting. This is why our sexual desire is generally easier to have at the beginning of a relationship when everything is new. We discover for the first time the other and ourselves in a new sexuality. Diversity can easily be found with other partners, which often leads to extramarital affairs or infidelity. On the other hand, variety can also be worked on in our couple and our monogamous sexuality.<\/a> <\/p>\n Conflicts in the couple increase over time as we get to know our partner better. This highlights the differences and the arguments multiply. These disputes force us to make choices<\/a> in our relationship that are not always pleasant and affect our satisfaction with the relationship. <\/p>\n The more the couple’s dissatisfaction grows, the less we admire and sexually desire our boyfriend or girlfriend. The mismanagement of these conflicts<\/a> leads to emotional distancing creating bitterness and resentment. Ingredients that kill sexual desire and create various sexual problems<\/a>. <\/p>\n <\/p>\n We like to be good in bed. We talk about it in magazines, movies, TV, among our friends, etc. In short, there is a lot of pressure to be better than others, because even our partners have expectations. The top positions to do, the number of orgasms, the frequency of sex per week, the duration to offer the most BANG for our partner.Why do we lose our libido?<\/h2>\n
The lack of novelty<\/h3>\n
Recurring arguments<\/h3>\n
Flattering the ego rather than the genitals<\/h3>\n
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