{"id":60,"date":"2013-06-15T03:58:00","date_gmt":"2013-06-15T01:58:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co\/2013\/06\/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html"},"modified":"2026-07-27T14:13:48","modified_gmt":"2026-07-27T18:13:48","slug":"sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nouveau.lesexologue.ca\/en\/blog\/2013\/06\/15\/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3\/","title":{"rendered":"Sexual Intimacy PART 3"},"content":{"rendered":"

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How does intimacy affect our sexual desire?<\/b><\/h4>\n
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When our relationships are based on intimacy validated by the other<\/a>, it is inevitable that we will hit obstacles in our sexual maturity. If we are only willing to reveal a small part of ourselves to our partner, we limit the degree of intimacy that our couple can share. <\/div>\n
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Limiting our sexual maturity<\/b><\/h3>\n
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Sexual desire in a long-term romantic relationship can be affected by a multitude of elements in the couple dynamic. From the outset, sexual desire stays alive in couples who have the ability to reinvent themselves, try new things, experiment with sexual fantasies, and introduce a variety of dynamics into their sex lives. It consists of not being afraid of ridicule, of laughing and tolerating a certain sexual discomfort. When our couple uses intimacy validated by the other, we are afraid to do the elements listed above. Because they have the potential to create rejection and judgment from the partner. Couples validated by the other try to avoid them at all times so as not to hurt each other. <\/div>\n
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Avoiding stagnation<\/b><\/h3>\n
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As a result, we find couples who have stagnated in their sexual development and maturity and therefore routine sets in. There is nothing but the predictability of sexual relations to extinguish sexual desire. Sexual desire exudes when there are elements <\/a>of adventure, novelty, surprise, creativity and strong emotions<\/a>.<\/a> Routine in sexuality serves to make us feel comfortable and loved, but it lacks the ability to turn us on and develop desire for our partner. <\/div>\n
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Admire to desire<\/b><\/h3>\n
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Another aspect that influences sexual desire is our ability to tolerate vulnerability in ourselves and that of our partner. One component of sexual desire is the admiration we have for the other. If this is absent, little desire may exist between two people. How can we be vulnerable to others by revealing our weaknesses, our mistakes, our problems without diminishing the admiration we have for each other? <\/div>\n